Far too many women over 50 are unhappy with the dating world, especially the Internet dating world. I almost always enjoy the date, whether it leads to a second one, a 10th one, a relationship, or whether we say goodbye after two hours together.
(I don't date men, so I don't know, but assume many men are unhappy with it as well.) That's too bad, because the online dating experience has opened up possibilities to meet people you never would have met before, and if some of those people are creepy or boring or not what they seem to be, here's a news flash: That was true back in the days when you only met people at work, at school, at the gym, at bars, or the dread introduced to you by friends. I love hearing stories and everyone -- especially women over 50 -- has a story. ADVICE FOR MEN Along the way on this path that most people might consider a waste of time and money, some lessons have emerged.
No pressure." —mechteldho "One of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten (from another introvert who was great at meeting/picking up people) was to treat the stranger like you've known them a long time but haven't seen them in a while.
Do what you'd normally do then, ask how they're doing, ask how work has been, etc." —Martin Goetz, Facebook "Don't be afraid to be upfront about being an introvert with your date.
“Most women would probably say they don’t stare at men’s bodies in the same way men do women, but they’re mistaken,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of .• But by far the most important advice I can give is LISTEN! Yes, money is important (I don't have much, so I can only assume from what I've heard), and being attractive is great (I'm not Clooney but I try my best.) But listening trumps them all. Being genuinely interested in hearing about their histories, their successes, their disappointments, their journeys yet to take. • And fourth, listening is an amazingly under-appreciated talent. Hearing someone's story and details about their life is what it's all about, as far as I'm concerned. I am always stunned by how most people just don't listen, and how far one can get simply by listening. Keep your cool and calm his jitters by giving him a warm hi and a quick hello hug.Then make a joke that acknowledges the weirdness ("Full disclosure: I changed three times! (If he honks from your driveway, wave him in for just a minute while you grab your purse and jacket.)Your instinct may be to ask a bunch of questions to get him to open up, but that can feel like a college admissions interview.