No one else can tell you what you are feeling, so only by being in touch with your own emotions can you know if you’re ready.Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.One is ready to date again whenever solitude gives way to loneliness.It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.“One should wait until THEY feel they are ready.
Wouldn’t you hope that the new love would be fond of your memory?
Dating someone who has lost someone very dear is a very delicate situation.
For one, the person may still have strong feelings tied up in the previous relationship and it’s untimely end. In fact, they most likely have not dated for a considerable length of time that they may have forgotten how to approach it again.
Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.